What do you want in a relationship?

Somehow I realised that my blog has been full of relationship related posts and there weren't many happy posts or happening posts. I guess it all became like that after I realised that someone undesirable was reading my blog after that incident happened... in May. After which, I don't really like her looking at photos taken with my friends and all. I do wish I could write a post about her, attached with a photo just to let everyone know what she did. You did not see me posting, so it is not here.Yet. Perhaps I'll go through a higher profile post so that it gets wider coverage.

All that had happened, it is strange and difficult to comprehend why would someone finds pleasure in doing such things, knowing that it is all words only but still suck it all up and pretend that it is all happening? It is easy to put a test to see how much that someone means to that person.

I want to move on. And I guess it is about time for me to do something by the end of this year. I wish to start something new for 2014 as 2013 is bad enough. I hope I will be able to stand strong and stay firm by then. I'd forgiven and forget too many times but it just keeps happening again and again which makes it hard for me to forgive and forget anymore. The last time is the last straw but I do not wish to stay and see it happening again. God knows what I will do.

I also knows that there are people close to me, reading my posts as they are voices from my thoughts which I never really share with them. I am glad that they reads and do not confront me about it but still supporting me silently.

So, as my post reads "What do you want in a relationship?"

I once told someone what I want in a relationship but I guess it all but fell on deaf ears as that person will read only. Selective reading on top of that. So when I was talking about this, that person asked what do I want in a relationship then, I do not really want to tell as I know it will just be washed away.

I want to be able to have TRUST in a relationship. That means no lying in a relationship. No keeping things. Complete trust and faith.

I want to have a relationship where we can talk about anything under the sun. It can be small things like 'Hey, I just found this app/game." or it can be "my friends are planning a birthday event for a friend / Chinese New Year / Christmas event, we are thinking of doing this, this and that.". It can be anything that is happening right now. I guess it will lead to the next one.

I want both to be involve in each others lives and activities. When we are thinking of doing certain things, we will think of the other immediately.

I want to have a relationship where we can share about just anything which is similar to the part where I said we can talk about anything under the sun but this time is, we can share our personal thoughts and feelings with each other. Our plans.

I want to have a relationship where I can see us moving on to somewhere. It does not necessary have to lead to marriage but it can lead to a relationship where I know it will  be the last one, a relationship which is rock solid, which will lasts.

Just more disappointments than happy memories. Why did it all start? Why did I not protest and go with what was planned initially? Why did I not stop myself then? Perhaps it will not happen at all. Then perhaps I will be feeling quite the opposite of what I am feeling right now.

Why?

How do you close a healing wound that keeps opening up?

How do you give trust to someone who wants you to give them complete trust and yet, feeds you with lies all the time?

Why someone said things out of convenience just so to put a closure to something quickly without resolving it?

How can a person not shed a tear after having faced with so many blows and still stands, still giving the same amount and not falter a bit? Is that person stupid? Or just too nice? Or just too naive to think that someone will change for the person?

Being too optimistic is not a good thing. Perhaps that naive person ought to start looking out for themselves and give less.

I think the person should stand firm and treat own self good instead of the other way round.

Why someone can lie so much out of convenience?

Why can't someone take others feelings into consideration for once?

Why is there such a selfish someone?

It all boils down to fate.

I had just attended a wedding, a couple whom I am close with.

How they met, how their friendship blossomed into a relationship, how they managed through it for 4 years, I still believe that it was fate that brought them together.

Fate plays a part in bringing two person together and the rest will be up to the couple on how do they want to continue on from there.

It was sweet and they are really a match for each other. As much as there are ups and downs, they still make it through all these years.

Being involve in each other's lives, respecting one another, being happy, being one another's pillar of strength, saving all the sweet nothings for no one but between the two of them and be each other's travel partner.

Capturing all the moments, even small moments be it when eating, walking, shopping or even at home with camera.

Is it important to put photos taken together as your wallpaper on your phone, computer or as your display picture for your facebook, whatsapp, twitter, etc?

How about if you put it but it doesn't mean anything to you? Or you place it when it means something to you? Such as a trophy photo to show others that you are proud of being with that someone else? To tell the other genders that you are happy in a relationship and do not need other attention from them? To see the photo when you misses them, when you are feeling down and need a smile on your face by looking at the photo or when you are feeling angry at something and needed something to keep you calm?

A song for all couples out there. If you are ever thinking that things are not working out for you, perhaps you should take some time to think about why are you together with your partner in the first place.

For friends, why or what brought you two together out of the many others and to share that special moment, that special friendship.

For family, why do you have such siblings that you can share your happiness, sadness and life with.

妈妈还是最伟大！

Oh yah, these topics had skipped my mind while I was doing the previous post.

I think a mom is very 伟大. Like my mommy, she is damn powerful. She can take  care of her naughty grandson the whole day and still prepare dinner for us with him fighting for her attention. Even when she wasn't feeling well, she also managed to have the energy to look after him. On top of that, during weekends during her rest day, she will do the housework. Who dare to complain their job is tiring and tough? I think mommy's job is the toughest.

Waking up at 4am to make breakfast for dajie and mei. 8am wake up again to look after her grandson until dajie is back.. Which varies between 6 to 8pm, sometimes go marketing, carrying baby in one hand and groceries in the other. Which I'd tried and couldn't last all the way till I'm home, cooks dinner. After that then she will have her own time to read her book, watch youtube, surf the internet. If grandson is sick, even worse. He will get cranky and mommy will help dajie to look after him. Over the weekends, she will clean the house and sometimes she will prepare dinner. Did I mention that she has to do the laundry for the members living in the house? Except for mine as I do my own laundry.

Dajie also another mommy I felt really 佩服 and is definitely not something I can do nor sacrifice for. She's now pregnant with her second kid, has to work from 7.30am and if she's too busy, she will only reach home around 9pm. Back home, she must play with her son, put him to sleep and he doesn't sleep easily. Tiring can????

Ok... Moving on to another topic. When a couple are together for some time, and felt that their relationship is a little stale.. Do they try to do something to improve things? Which definitely takes efforts from both parties or do they felt tired after doing so and began the next option - turning their attention to another person of the opposite gender and perhaps, toy with the idea of maybe leave their current partner for someone new? Then the vicious cycle begins again.

Why is it that there are couples who fought so hard just to stay together and couldn't be together because of their religion differences while others who got it easy and still break up just because they are bored of the relationship? Just because they had it too easily that they were unable to treasure each other?

Spoilt for Choice! Yummy!!

YES!!!!!!! Did not expect K to buy so much for me during his trip back to Thailand. I asked him to buy the squid flavour Lay if possible and was expecting just two packs... and when I finally received them (no thanks to Mr L for keeping it so long with him), I was speechless.

I felt like I was taking the snacks out from Doremon's pouch and not from the seemingly small plastic bag! I had tried the squid flavour seaweed on the bottom right (yellow packaging). It was so damn delicious that I could have open another pack and finish the rest off, if not for my high level of self control. I have a very weak spot for snacks and if I am to finish them all, I will have sore throat by tomorrow.

Ahhhh THANK YOU K!!!!

It was good seeing K and have a last minute dinner plan. I had suggested Lao Pa Sat but luckily L remembered that it was under renovation, so we went to Tom Yum Kung Fu at boat quay instead for moooooooookata!! It has been such a long time since I last saw his little girl and the last time I saw her was when she was still a few months old and now... Time flies. She responds to actions and words and could muttered a few herself. She is already 13 months old! It was nice that she let me carry her without crying, played with me and shared her food with me! Haha. So cute!!!

Felt bad that he had to send us all home, me especially since I was the only one who lived in the east.

Anyway I am hooked onto my mobile game - Plants vs Zombie II! Completed the three stages and now, I am trying to collect stars for my Wild Wild West map before heading off into the unknown. :D

Brainsssssssssssss!!!!!

Last week, everyone at home was feeling sick, mommy was coughing with sore throat. Mei and I were free that weekend and we decided to cook dinner! We planned our day nicely. I wanted to shop for tops for yoga, do mani and pedi with mei, do grocery for dinner, have lunch outside, buy facial products.. we managed to do all except for our nails. Guess I had underestimated the place I went to once.. It was packed until 4pm.. which we would  have to return home by then and prepare our dinner and me, playing my Fables III. :(

It was our first time brewing this snow pear, supposedly good for those who are feeling heaty, having dry cough or sore throat. And it was good for our lungs.. that's what I read online. We found the recipe online and tried brewing that.

Mommy said it was good and her throat felt better after having two rounds of it. And her cough actually went away the next day! YAY!

 

So... forgetting that there are heaty people in the house... I fried some chips myself.. Haha. It was really good and I want  to do that again one day!