Over-thinking? Emotions vs Rationale

One of the few things that were burning on my mind was "What happens when a couple has nothing much to talk about when they were together?" Does that spells the end of a relationship?

After checking around with a few friends, I realised that it all depends on the person's character. If the person is talkative while the partner is not - that reminded me of a really cute couple. Then the talkative person will be doing most of the talking while the quiet one listens and throws in a few responses.

Another couple will be they just simply have to keep talking to each other otherwise they will feel very uncomfortable even to the extend of being unable to sleep at night if they don't talk or if the wife did not hear her husband's voice!

While one will make fun of his girlfriend and once he starts that, his girlfriend will tease him mercilessly.

His girlfriend is not in town, however before that, they were together for 6 years and still counting! Before that, they had their ups and downs, apart from family and religion, it will be just them, their relationship.

So from here, I conclude that no relationship is alike. And even if it comes to a point of the couple has few words for each other, as long as the feelings is still there, that matters most. If no communication then do it with action! Like while eating, if the partner's mouth is dirty or has leftovers, wipe it off for them. This is a gesture, to show you care. Or just holding your partner's hand without letting go, or hugging them, putting your hand over their shoulder, even if it is a quiet walk.

And a friend said I think too much. Perhaps that's the case. If you start thinking "Hey, we have nothing to talk about" and you will start feeling stress that something is wrong with this relationship, whether is it going downhill, etc.

I saw this post that says: Over thinking can slows down your brain.

Maybe think of activities to do together. Singapore is small, how about going overseas?

Plan a one-day Batam trip, bicycle riding in Pulau Ubin or Malaysia!

How about walking? The old railway is opened to public, take a walk there, take photos of your partner, with your partner, the scenery there. There's a natural reserve at Sungei Buloh, you can walk there, maybe you will be lucky to see a tree snake - I did! Or a big monitor lizard soaking in the sunlight in the middle of the path!

What other activities can you think of?


Sometimes, staying at home, watching tv and enjoying your company is what your partner want. :)

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A friend of mine posted something on Facebook, about Emotion and Rationale.

Somehow, I can relate to this totally after what had happened.

No matter how rationale the person is, emotion will still take over.

It is like a fight between the Devil and the Angel in you. One telling why it's wrong and the other telling you it's wrong but just do it!

When Emotion takes over, the parties involved tend to get hurt the most. No one will be happy.

Why Rationale always lose to Emotion then? I'm not sure, maybe people just give in to emotion because emotion makes them feel better? Being rationale does not make you feel happy. It just points out the obvious. Emotion is like ecstasy, it makes you feel high, however when the effect is gone, it makes you feel like shit.

Found this in Wiki when I typed Ecstasy:
Ecstasy (philosophy), a term used to mean "outside-of-itself"

Which I feel is quite right.

Guess only the most strong-willed person can fight Emotion over Rationale.

Me? It depends on the situation, however I did let emotion took over rationale once. And I will NEVER let that happen again. Maybe before just jumping in, I will take time off to think rationally. Pushing emotions away no matter how tempting it is to have a taste of sweetness.