How much does one deserves?

I was just wondering, how many chances does one person deserves?
If they kept repeating the same mistake that can be hurtful be it emotionally or physically.

Do they deserved to be forgiven after repeated mistakes?

Do they deserve many second chances?

Or the forgiving one is being too naive to keep forgiving them and giving chances?

I have always thought that once the person was caught committing a mistake, a big one that is hurtful enough to hurt people around them, they will learn their lesson and stop making the same mistake.

Some I've seen had really changed, for the better. Some, no. Even after some changes in their lives, they still can continue making the same mistake after a period of time.

When the person keeps repeating the same thing over and over again, should they be left alone, given up on and let them be? Or do they still deserve another chance?

It is like, a gambler. Who lost his family. Or it gotten so bad that he had his fingers chopped off. Will he still give in to his craving and gamble again? Or will they learn their lessons and stopped gambling?

I used to think that, the gambler who lost his family and later was given a second chance, would stop gambling for good and starts appreciating his family who forgave him and welcome him back home. However, what if he returned to gambling after months of good behaviour? Or what if, he has been gambling (small) behind his family's back?

Using him/his/he is just a general term for man, human. So it can be applied to both man and woman.

Will his family forgive him again should he seek repentance?

Or they will leave him?

That's just one example.

How many more chances should they get, or forgiveness until they change for the better?

Or that is just impossible for that is just the way they are.

Just human nature?

Or it is just their character? Weak and giving in to temptations easily?

Or just like what it was said, "A leopard will never change its spots"?

Sometimes I wonder, how many more times can I forgive the same person who kept repeating the same mistakes.

How many more times till I felt tired and decides that it's over?

Should I have stick to my resolve and stand up against the person?

What if the person, who will just say anything just to make the person happy, keep their hopes high up and yet, still do it again?

How about if a person who has been lying for countless times that, you don't know when are they telling the truth?

Just like the boy who cried wolf.

How does one trust the person who kept lying?




Today, I was thinking about my decision made last night.. I wonder, whether did I do the right thing? Should I not get soft hearted? Should I just stay firm with my initial decision?

Let time tell huh.... time had told me a lot of things, showed me a lot of things.. which I used to blindly overlook.. however, this time. It is different.




Sometimes, when a person asked for a chance, a second or third chance.. and when things were going well, they made the same mistake again. And again. Yet again.

And when they were caught, they tried to make peace. Asking to be forgiven again.

It sure made one felt that, the person does not cherish what was given. Does not appreciate the chances.

Do they feel that, there was nothing wrong in what they were doing? Or they knew and still continue doing it anyway? Or to them, it was something minor. Nothing harmful that will take someone's life?

So, when the last chance was presented to them. They took it and seemed to make good on their word not to stray to the outer path.

And they did it again.



Another chance?

When they felt that what was happening to them was real, that they are really losing the people around them, they felt.. worried? And wanted another chance. Again.


Would they really make use of this chance to do good? Will they really change for the better? Will they really appreciate what was given and swore never to step out of line again??

I guess, no one can tell.

Only time can tell.

However, whatever trust that they had tried so hard to build... is gone.

Even if they try to rebuild it, even the smallest ounce of crack will still be there. That crack, will crumble easily by the touch of a feather.






Perhaps, if the person who has been so forgiving, should just walk away and never look back.