Bag, games and relationship!

I had just met up with a friend of mine whom I have not meet up for months.

We still keep in contact even though we did not meet up and during which she was telling me how bad she was feeling and how someone made her so angry, so sad... Someone who just fed her with so many different emotions and feelings at once.

I still remembered the time she told me that she is not actively looking for a relationship and I didn't know that she was in one. She didn't want to say it over the phone as she prefer to say it personally.

That got me thinking, why must one be in a relationship with the other person just to find out whether are they compatible or not? Why not during the courting stage? Was it because during the courtship, everything was perfect? That one is able to overlook the other's disability during the honeymoon period? Or they are willing to go all the way of being the nice person instead of showing how they're really like during the courtship? That's why after the two are in a relationship, it means they can stop pretending who they are not and start showing their 'real' self. That also mean the 'real' problems will start surfacing and that is the test of their relationship. How much can each one withstand the truth of the other half and how much are they willing to tolerate each other.

Why can't the courtship be longer? To know one another better before entering a relationship? Is it because one doesn't know how long does the other take to accept and would like to move on to the next person? And the recipient doesn't know how long the other is willing to wait for them to decide hence accept the offer?

Sounds like one is debating whether to purchase the item that they have been waiting for so long. If they wait for the price to drop or for more reviews on the item then buy if there are a lot of positive reviews? However the longer they wait, there is a chance the item may be gone for good but if they buy to secure the item then to read that there are many poor reviews, then it's either you sell it or you just accept it and keep it - that is being positive about the item that others reject.

Sometimes I wish things could be much simpler. Love is love. There is no lies, no secrets, no hate, no betrayal, no 'not being serious' or 'I'm just toying with you only' kind of love. No 'I love you but I love another as well'.

Anyway I think one should give a second thought when they wish to just play with another innocent person's feelings especially when they are taking away the other's first time of everything - first relationship, first kiss, first date, etc. they ought to be ashamed of themselves.

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Anyway I went high and low looking for a nice bag to bring with me for my trip to Bangkok this Friday. I had Porter in mind and first thing was to the outlet at Wisma Atria. The staffs seemed reluctant to attend to me, maybe because I was dressed quite shabbily? Like a backpack - it's Herschel ok!, a pair of Havaianas flip flops, a pair of shorts and a tee. I didn't bring spare clothes with me when I stayed over at my mom's. It was only until I reached out to take a bag then one of them came to me. It was a bad vibe already. Anyway they did not have what I want and so I just left the shop. Went to Isetan to take a look, scoured Takashimaya for Kate Spade (they are having sales up to 50% off. Pity they do not have stock for my baby bag. I love their baby bag for it is big and nice!), some other outlets and ended out leaving the place empty handed.

Returned to ION and tried the Kate Spade outlet there and was disappoints again. Next door was Agnis b. The lady staff was extremely helpful, she showed me a lot of bags and I really want to buy one from her because of her good service. Unfortunately I did not because the bags that caught my eye couldn't fit my iPad. :(

The service I received from her was the total opposite from the one at Porter, Wisma Atria.

I didn't want to return to Porter at Wisma and so I searched online for other outlets and found one at TANGS! The service was a lot better than Wisma too! Why huh? The guy was extremely helpful and showed me some bags that fit my requirement and told me how new, what they had, etc. only thing is.... The bag that I like was the last piece and that's the display set. The guy's colleague told me that she had placed it on display just today only, which maybe she's telling the truth, maybe she's lying just to 'assure' me. Anyway the last piece had a minor defect. The threads came off a little by the side of a small pocket which I could just sent it back for servicing since it is under a 6 months warranty. I will take a picture of it another day. Just too lazy to unwrap it from the wrapper.

So when I got home, I realized that I'm going to Bangkok and I should have just bring my old Adidas bag instead of my brand new bag! That's when I really feel like hitting my head. I just did an impulsive purchase while forgetting where am I going to. I just need a new bag that's all and I can always buy it later. Sigh.

My only consolation was I managed to buy Dragon Age Inquisition on Xbox 360 (to balance the world and to carry forward what was left behind in DA II. Like the king of Ferelden, etc) and Assassin Creed Unity on PS4! I can't play them yet because I will be leaving for Bangkok on Friday and tomorrow is quality time with my mom and dajie with two cute nephews! Sad sad sad!!

Unfortunately there is no stock for Lego Batman Beyond Gotham. My lego video games are all in a mixture of Xbox 360, PS3 & 4. Not uniform in terms of platform, my trophies and achievements are everywhere!

The Importance of Money $$$$

I had forgotten to bring my money pouch along last week and borrowed $20 from my colleague. Here's the breakdown of my spending in a day.

Fried carrot cake $4.30

Orange juice $2.10

Curry puffs 5 pcs for $2

So I was left with $11.60 at the end of the day.

Decided to buy Don's pie back home to eating I wanted to buy two of them. At that time, I was already trying to think how does the pie cost.

Per pie is $5.90

Two pieces will be $11.80

Argh!!!! I was just $0.20 short of having two pies! And they accept Nets or cash only but no credit card!

Bought 1 pie $5.90

Went to macdonalds and tried my luck by ordering medium fries. I wanted to get the large fries however with just $4 in my pocket, I don't want to over order. The staff over the counter asked me whether do I want to upsize my fries to large fries at just $2.90? I can't really remember how much did he say the large fries cost however I know that the two purples colored notes are enough to cover the cost and I get my change too.

That was the day when I learnt the importance of money and really feel for families/people who have to really think very hard when it comes to buying something or anything that is not a necessity.

Things ain't cheap and they cost money. And looking back at what I'd spent, $20 was gone in a day. We are too used to having money in our pocket that we tend to overlook the actually cost of the item. I can't imagine a pack of fried carrot cake cost me $4 at least and it wasn't enough to fill my stomach hence the extra spending of $2 for curry puffs that wasn't delicious and was about the size of my fist or maybe smaller! Spent $2 on orange juice... Goodness! I could just stick to plain water eh? It is free and it is good for my body.

I think the only time when I actually think about spending my money is when I am thinking of buying an item that cost more than $600 unless it's Xbox or Playstation then... That can't be helped. Sometimes the price is too little that we tend to overlook it but if we are to look at the actually cost the we will realize how much we had spent and then wonder whether is it worth it.

It is the little things that adds up. Eating at restaurants eh? You'll feel a little bit of the pain because it is at least a two digits figure. I like eating at those hawker centers where you can get really cheap food and they tastes superb! And I meant really yummy! They have this special taste that you cannot get from food court. Just imagine paying $2 or maxmimum $3 for two meat and one veg? Or the economy bee hoon with two items and costing you no more than $2.50? Almost impossible right?

I always envy some of my colleagues and friends who bought those food that has that unique taste to it. I just found out Teban Gardens has this bee hoon that is exactly what I want! Just that it is too far for me to make the trip down. :(

No matter how much you earn, you need to understand and know how important money is. You need to note how much the item cost instead of just paying for it blindly just because the value is too small to care. Of course ain't asking you to be a miser as well..... ;)

I had once tried to calculate my spendings for a day and realized that I spent most or almost all of them on food. How about you? What do you spend on?

Another random rambling.

Life is a funny thing. 

We born, we learn to see, to smell, to touch and to feel. We also learn to walk, to talk, to build memories and our bones grow so we'll be taller. 

We learn things through the news, the internet, through school and at work. We will go through all the ups and downs of life.

As we grow older, we will see people around us falling in love and we do too as well. People around us getting married and have kids.

Then we grow old, we see our friends growing old too, maybe some have illness and maybe even attend their funerals. We stopped walking, talking, lose our memories and our bone starts to shrink and we die.

It is like a graph chart.. Think of it like a bell curve/normal distribution. Or simply put a roller coaster ride. You rise and grow so fast with life passing everyday like a zip... zip.... ZIP! The thrills, the highs and the fun. When it starts to end, you'll feel the decline. You'll feel that it's coming to an end, you rest.

Anyway today I just saw something that happened and it made me wonder and feel for the people who went overseas to work. 

Be it for the people who got paid high money and be sent overseas to work but more for those who have to go overseas to work in order to support their family back home.

Having to adapt to life overseas, the different culture and especially leaving people closest to you behind is especially difficult. Having to find a place to rent and doing it again after your lease ended and is not extended. So adapting to not just the lifestyle but to the housemates as well.

Missing homecooked food and the company of your family and friends. Missing the local foods in your own country. 

Worse is if something happened at home and you're stuck overseas, unable to return home. Have to wait for embassy to open on weekdays or if you can't apply leave from work to fly back. Or the air ticket is too expensive and you can't afford to fly back. Or no air ticket is available at all. Or waiting for your passport/work visa to be extended which in some cases can take months. You are just stuck here, helpless and can't do anything except to get updates from people back home.

It is unthinkable should anything happen to my family even if we are all staying here, being overseas is worse.

You are alone and although there are friends and work colleagues who are supportive but the feeling is different when you're with your family.

I pray for my friend and hope she will be strong. She had been through a lot and now this. She's a survivor but when one carries too much weights, one will also collapse from exhaustion. This is a test for her and I hope she will pass it with flying colours.