龙和狗真的不合吗？

I have always heard of this saying - for Chinese zodiac, that those born in the year of Dog and Dragon will not get along. It can be siblings, relationship, etc.. I first heard that when I just dated a guy who is a Dragon. And I do not believe that because I believe it is the person's personality that decides whether the two people will get along.

We dated for 5 years and we broke up the end.

Then later, I dated another guy who is another dragon.

Somehow after 1 year plus, I am starting to believe in that saying. Is it true?

And a lot of it was about our pride getting in the way. That we are proud people. And we will not be in harmony. Will not be in step with each other.

Or is it because of things that had happened seemed to sway my opinions over to the other side?

I always believe that we can change our fate that we will not turn out to be like what they had said. That our relationship will not last because of our zodiac sign. That we will not get along. And they began to show the pairings of animals that are actually a match for each other.

And I began to wonder, is that why it happened? Because of our signs, that are wrongly matched? That we cannot be together for long?

Why is it that it is beginning to feel like a one way street?

Is it because we let our pride gets in the way that we don't communicate? Don't talk openly of our feelings towards each other?

Is there any good examples of couple with mismatch signs who are still together and going strong?

Realization.

I have always been thinking about what I want in a relationship. From my man. And I didn't realise it until now that what I want are simple.

I just want a man whom I will be proud to show off to my friends. And my man to feel the same way too. Introduce his cool girlfriend who plays video games.

(That sounds familiar.)

A man who is sensitive towards my feelings and I will do the same to.

I want a man who can feel at ease with my friends and participate in our conversations without trouble. And should my man brings me out with him to meet his friends, he will try to assure me he is still with me - if he understands me well enough, he knows why.

I want my man never to tell lies. Whom I can give my complete trust to. I know I can give him the trust he wants.

Our relationship to be so transparent that we have problem holding each other's phone or even using each other's phone. Because there IS no secrets between us.. Except for planning surprises.

I want us to be proud of each other that we will be spamming our photos on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc. sharing our happiness with friends.

I want us to try everything together. Be it trying out new cafe/restaurant/pubs.. To name a few no matter what the distance is. To try out new things or even play sports together. To explore places together. To travel together.

Although I don't have the habit of wearing a ring. But if my man really wants to let people know we belongs to each other. He will want us wearing a couple ring. (Maybe?) or splash our photo on all his profiles to tell people.

To be ready to move on (not marriage) and stay in a committed relationship with me.

One who plans and not know nothing. For I know I will plan too.

I guess a lot of people don't know that.. Lying is the worse thing in a relationship. One lie (unless it is a white lie just to plan something but not lying just to meet people) can really cause a crack.

You can repair a wound but you can never remove the scars.

But is there such a person? Someone who does not cheat and lie. Do such a person exist?

You can't judge a book by its cover

First off, thanks J for your comment. :)

It was really good seeing your comment. Hope you're doing well over your side!

Been wanting to post some photos but I'd decided to wait till I buy my own MacBook.. Which is when I'd move back to my house. Renovation is almost done (finally!) and I guess the part that I'm dreading most is the cleaning and unpacking part. Luckily I'd managed to get a few close friends to help me out!

Anyway a close friend of mine just told me a something that made me wonder..

Why is it so easy to cheat and so hard to keep a relationship floating?

If one person felt that they can't contribute anymore.. Why not just ask to end things amicably before moving on?

It felt like.. A person who felt complacent enough to move forward while still pulling onto the rope. So they still can return back should things go bad?

The person whom I see was the least likely to do it did it.. And the person whom everyone saw as one who will most likely do it.. Did not.

Guess that's where we start judging people. That also made it easy for those with the 'clean' face to do whatever they want because the people surrounding them will not have a clue nor believe they are the one who is being unfaithful.

Why do people do it in the first place?

Especially so for those who are married and worse, have kids!

This whole thing just made people lose faith in relationship. That should they be in a relationship again, they'll tread lightly and most prolly will not take it seriously. Which may end up hurting the other half.

If a person who wants to be in a relationship, should think about what they want first.

However, guess for some they will only know it after they have their fair share of fun.

Or maybe love just cannot be denied. Once you are attracted to that person, you just want to be with them. But as easy as it comes, the feeling will go away as well. And that's where the whole cycle starts.

Maybe that's why some of the people around me are single with no intention of getting attached. They feel that a relationship is too troublesome. They like their freedom and being single. Of course they don't fool around.

Sigh.. What happened to my friend.. Kind of affected me. Coz he's my good friend and he has that face that people will associate with bad guys. Yet, he's not that type of person.

It kind of sucks.